Making friends was easier when we were kids. All we had to do was sit beside somebody in class, discover we both love the same cartoon, and voilà. We had a new best friend.

As adults, we're somehow expected to manufacture friendships from thin air. But, making friends doesn't mean we have to charm 40 strangers. It helps to go places where we'll see the same people, already have something to talk about, and have a reason to come back.

Here's where to start.

Join a Club

Book clubs are classics for a reason, but don't stop there. Look for groups built around things you genuinely enjoy, like:

• Walking or running groups

• Gardening or photography clubs

• Craft circles

• Choirs

• Board game groups

• Sports or community organizations

Don't attend once and decide nobody became your best friend. Give it a few meetings. Learn people's names. Sit beside someone you've spoken to before. Eventually, you won’t be the new person.

Go Where Your Fellow Nerds Are

Find an event dedicated to something you love and go, even if nobody wants to come with you. Writing festival? Go. Comic convention? Absolutely. Pokémon card convention? You've just entered a building full of people who already want to talk about Pokémon cards.

Look for things connected to your interests, like:

• Festivals

• Conventions

• Talks

• Workshops

• Meetups

You don't need a brilliant opening line when the conversation starter is sitting on the table between you.

Take a Class That Lasts More Than One Night

Classes put the same group of adults in the same room week after week. Try:

• Adult education or evening university courses

• Art or creative writing classes

• Language courses

• Cooking classes

• Dance lessons

• Pottery or photography courses

By week four, you’ll know who always arrives early, who makes you laugh, and who might fancy getting a coffee afterward.

Introduce Yourself at the Library

Libraries are little community headquarters hiding in plain sight. If you're new to town, tell the librarian.

You can literally say, "I'm new around here, and I'd love to meet some new people. Is there anything social happening at the library?" They may know about all kinds of things happening nearby, including:

• Clubs

• Talks

• Writing groups

• Craft mornings

• Community groups that meet regularly

Check the bulletin board, too. Those crooked flyers may contain the keys to your Tuesday nights.

Become a Sunday Morning Regular

Pick somewhere you genuinely like and keep showing up. Maybe it's:

• The coffee shop on Sundays

• A farmers market

• A bakery

• A local breakfast spot

Then, make yourself a regular:

• Go at roughly the same time

• Put the phone away

• Say hello to people

• Learn a few names

Eventually, somebody will say, "Haven't seen you in a couple of weeks." That's when you’ll know you've become part of the community.

Volunteer Somewhere You'd Go Anyway

Pick something you genuinely care about:

• Helping at an animal shelter

• Joining a community garden

• Volunteering at a theater or festival

• Taking part in local cleanups

• Working at a thrift store

Choose something recurring, when possible. Working the same Saturday shift every month will give you time to know the person working beside you.

Say Yes to the Slightly Random Invitation

A coworker might invite you to trivia, even though you barely know them. Go.

Someone from class might mention a festival this weekend. Go.

The neighbor might tell you a few people are meeting for coffee. Go.

Not every invitation will produce a friendship. But, once you know one person, you’ll start meeting their people. That's how a social circle quietly gets bigger.

Start Something Small Yourself

If the social thing you want doesn't exist, start it.

• Invite three people over for drinks and snacks while you knit. 

• Start a tiny writing group with a few people from class. 

• Pick a Sunday for brunch and make it a monthly thing. 

• Form a trivia team. 

• Suggest a movie night.

It doesn't need an official name, a Facebook group, or 20 members. Four people laughing around a table is a social life.

And, if everyone had fun, don't leave the next gathering floating around in "we should do this again" territory. Pull out your calendars and set the next date. 

Keep Showing Up

Go back to the café next Sunday. Attend the next class. Show up for book club even though you didn't finish the book. Say hello to the person you recognize, instead of wondering whether they'll remember you.

Adult friendships rarely arrive with a dramatic moment. More often, somebody starts as the woman from writing class, the guy from trivia, or the person who's always at the café on Sunday. Then, one day, they're simply your friend.

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